"Show me a woman who doesn't feel guilty and I'll
show you a man." -Erica Jong
Guilt is often the result of a disparity between how we
truly feel and how we think we are supposed to feel.
For example, I used to feel guilty when I didn't pick-up
my children at school. I had moved to suburbia and it
seemed that picking up children from school was an
unspoken rule of good parenting. My guilt was the gap
between how I truly felt- that my own interests and self-
care sometimes prevented me from picking up my
children and that is perfectly okay- and how I thought I
was supposed to feel- that I'm not doing my job as a
mom if I delegate the pick-up from school.
The way I released my guilt was to become more
authentic. I began to fulfill myself with work that I am
passionate about- coaching clients, giving workshops
and writing. I became more aligned with my true
feelings, values and priorities. Writing my book,
The
Balanced Mom, helped me connect with my true
self and I
live
within my guilt-free zone by re-reading my book and
seeking support from others who are in a similar
place.
For many women who have left the workforce, going
back to meaningful work that honors your lifestyle
choices is a sure ticket to living more authentically and
letting go of the small stuff. The quickest path to a
guilt-free life is to fulfill
yourself and allow your own values to guide you.
When you live
in this authentic manner, the "supposed to" whispers
are silenced.
Ask yourself these questions to put guilt in the
graveyard and live in alignment with your true self:
- What are your true feelings about the situation?
What can you change to let your true feelings guide
you?
- Are you regularly engaged in your passions?
- If you aren't working, would you consider attaining
work that fulfills you and honors your lifestyle choices?
If this idea intrigues you, stay tuned for my phone
groups starting in September!
Liberate your self. Focus on your many blessings,
find your fulfillment, and watch your guilt melt away!
